Real Factors About Temper Tantrum

There are many real factors which makes child became temper tantrum, such as :

1. A child is too tired, so that easy for them to feel annoyed and than difficult to control their emotion.
2. A child is failed while doing something, so that they become mad or angry and difficult to control it. This situation could be worsed when they felt that his parent always compare him with another child or his parent has highly demand for his child.
3. If a child has a desire, always be rejected and been angry with. Otherwise the parent force him to do something while he is playing a game. For example : order to eat. Maybe they never think that it could be a problem for their child in the future or next day. A child will think that he lost his ability and afraid of fight his parent’s demand. In the other side, he had to obey his parent’s order or command. This conflict will broken his emotion and someday it will blow up.
4. Child with mentally development disorder, oftenly happened a temper tantrum. Especially, when he felt giving up to tell or express his desire to his environment.
5. The most oftenly happened is a child adopt his parent’s deviate action while releasing their anger. If you care about your child development, better check your attitude and character as good parent.

With those many factors, hopely we as a parent know how to face it. When we really face it, we know what we could do.

The next article, I’ll try to give you a few thing that parent could do to face a temper tantrum. So see you on the next article.

How Is Important We Know About Loss ?

Now a days, many disasters are happened around us. Earthquakers, tornadoes, tsunami, high floods and others. Realize or not, it gave great impacts in our life, especially people who suffered it instantly. Those are a variety of life events as representing losses.

Loss is truly an issued that should be viewed from a bio-psychosocial perspective. A person experiences loss in the absence of an object, person, body part or function, or emotion that was formerly present. Loss occurs when something or someone can no longer be seen, felt, heard, known, or experienced.

In Fundamental of Nursing (1992), written that loss has decided in five categories :

1. Lost of External Object

Although the loss of external objects is not usually a prominent loss, the area of finances can be troublesome and stressful for some people. Loss of an external object involves any possession that is worn out, misplaced, stolen or ruined by disaster.
The extent of grieving a person feels for a lost object depends on its value, the sentiment the person attaches to it and the object’s usefulness.

2. Loss of a Know Environment

Loss through separation from a known environment may occur through maturational or situational circumstances and through injury or illness. The loneliness of an unfamiliar setting may threaten self-esteem and makes grieving more difficult.

3. Loss of a Significant Other

Significant other include parents, spouses, children, work associates, entertainment figure and also pets. The loss of the loved one may be total or partial. There may also be a loss of some special aspect of the person, even though the person is still physically present.
Loss occurs as a result of separation, moving, running away, promotion at work and death.

4. Loss of an Aspect of Self

The loss of an aspect of self may include a body part, physiological function, or psychological function.
“While other girls in my class were anticipating their first real kiss, I was worrying about whether my father was going to come into my bed that night.”
The woman who has been raped also suffers a number of losses.
A person not only experiences grief over the loss but may experience permanent changes in body image and self concept.

5. Loss of Life

Concern is often not about death it self but about pain and loss of control. Although most people are afraid of and anxious about death, the same issues will not be equally important to each person. Each person respons differently to death.
The type of loss is significant to the grieving process. We need to recognize that each person’s interpretation of a loss is highly individualized.

In a religious book, there are good suggestion which could be followed :

• When you felt afraid of lossing something, try to imagine the worse things that could be happened. Than, prepare your self receiving any risks with good preparation. If you did it, you will feel saved your self from bad suffered feelings.
• Love someone as the way he/she is, not too much. Cause someday you will hate him/her. And hate someone not too much, someday you could love him/her.
• The more we understand what loss is, the better we will make decision for our strides in this beautiful life.
  

References :

1. Potter, A. Patricia. Anne G. Perry (1992). Fundamental of Nursing: concepts, process & practise. Missiouri: Mosby-Year book Inc.
2. Shapiro, C. Hoenk. (1993). When Part of The Self is Lost : helping clients heal after sexual and reproductive losses. The Jossey-Bass health series.
3. Al-Qorni, ‘Aidh Abdullah, DR., Ma. (2004). Don’t Be Sad : Cara Hidup Positif Tanpa Pernah Sedih & Frustasi. Maghfirah Pustaka: Jakarta.
   

Therapeutic Communication

The purpose of the initial client interview is to gather data, establish rapport, and lay a foundation for trust between the client and the nurse. An expression of warmth and respect by the nurse facilitates this exchange. Give the person special attention at the beginning of the interview by calling the client name and using appropriate touch. The nurse must clearly state any expectations and assess the client’s understanding of the communication. Therapeutic communication techniques are valuable. However, an attitude of caring is the foundation of therapeutic transaction. The nurse should be aware of actions that often block communication.

After the initial interview, a therapeutic communication process is established। Empathetic communication is a skill acquired through self-awareness and perceptive listening (Goodner & Skidmore-Roth, 1993).

Communicating Effectively With Older

Communicating with older clients often requires extra time and patience because of physical, psychologic, and social changes of normal aging. The following tips make communication with older people easier (From the American Speech, Language and Hearing Association, Rockville, Md, 1988):

• Before you begin your conversation, reduce distracting background noises (turn of the radio or television, close the door, move to a quieter place)।


• Begin the conversation with casual topics (the weather, what the person had for lunch)। Avoid crucial messages at the beginning.


• Continue conversation with familiar subjects such as family members and special interests of the person।


• Stick to a topic for a while। Avoid quick shifts from topic to topic.


• Keep your sentences and questions short। Rephrase rather than repeat a misunderstood sentence.


• Give older persons a chance to reminisce। Their memories are important to them.


• Allow extra time for responding। As people age, they function better at a slower tempo. Do not hurry them.


• Give the person choices to ease decision making (“Do you want tea or coffee?” rather than “What do you want to drink?”)।


• Be an active listener। If you are not sure what is being said, look for hints from eye gaze and gestures। Than take a guess (“Are you talking about the television news? Yes? Tell me more. I didn’t see it.”).

Note: Mosby’s Home Health Nursing Pocket Consultant